When you start talking about anal play of any kind, questions about sexuality and ‘am I gay?’ start cropping up. Don’t worry about it, people of all sexualities can enjoy exploring anal sensations.

Homosexuals

Gay men often use anal play, they know all about the pleasures of the g-spot! Whatever their anal play, fingering, rimming, use of dildos and toys, or anal sex, they get great amounts of pleasure from prostate play.

Homosexuality is about being attracted to the same sex, it’s not necessarily about anal play. Some gay men don’t do anal sex. Some prefer to give (‘top’), whilst some prefer to receive (‘bottom’). Some are ‘versatile’, and prefer both. Whatever their preferences, they all may enjoy anal play of some form.

Heterosexuals

There’s a stigma attached to anal play amongst heterosexuals, some men wonder ‘does this mean I’m gay?’ Well, of course not. Sexuality is about who you are attracted to, not the acts you perform. If you are attracted solely to the opposite sex you are probably heterosexual.

There is plenty of space within heterosexual relationships for anal play. Female sexual partners may enjoy anal play themselves, but they also may enjoy performing prostate stimulation on their male lovers. Whether with fingers or toys, what’s the harm in using ‘all the tools in the box’ so to speak, and gaining pleasure from lots of different things, and not just vanilla sex.

Masturbation

You also don’t have to think you are gay if you enjoy anal play on your own, during masturbation. Whilst you may have your finger, thumb or toy up your arse, your fantasies may not be homosexual, you may be fantasising about doing this with a female. Or you may not be fantasising at all, you may be too busy enjoying the fantastic sensations achieved through anal play.